OK i think that's enough about suicide and its effect and what to look for.hopefully it will help someone and maybe one one of you can also help someone who is in distress. I would like to say that I won't ever do it again or tell you i am completely happy and have friends all around me.ha ha not likely but i take it one day at a time. as for friends well needless to say i am an introvert-and people make me nervous and i have problems expressing myself-imagine that.after 49 years i am still an introvert and very shy.so making friends is a hard thing for me-never know what to say or make myself clear and i am very misunderstood-so i stay this way.
now going to collect Cd's,(music)collecting Gone with the wind' memorabilia or collecting swords and knives or collecting cherished teddies is my joy.working in the yard and finding ways to make it look better-raising my 2 Colombian red tail boas as pet has given me joy.playing online games and playing on pogo.com-and sometimes blogging to get things off my chest.but its those quiet times when my mind never stops,whether i am laying down or sitting on the porch-the quiet times that gets to me-my mind 100 miles a hour and it never stops-maybe one day i might be able to get a handle on this. not month i will be alone in a 3 bedroom house-my daughter and grandson are moving into their own apartment which i think its great for them-my son is incarcerated and well my wife left me saying it wasn't me it was her.I have my doubts on that for i know i am no where a perfect husband-i have my faults but apparently she not saying what i did wrong so she replies it is her not me.i think that is a cop out and i can't believe i did nothing wrong. a marriage takes 2 good or bad. but i guess i just have to just let go and maybe one day she will tell me the truth. but i won't hold my breath. I have nothing bad to say about my wife-she is a wonderful,loving person who cares.she gives everything into a relationship,she a awesome cook,we share cleaning the house together-maybe not as much as i should.but i do help,overall she a extremely amazing loving wife.what happened i don't know i can only assume or guess.which i am not good at either. but enough on that as well.well thanks again for listening to my babbling.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
suicide part II
what could i possibly write or blog again about this subject?well this for ones who are wondering how do i spot someone who is about to or in the process of committing suicide.
there are several signs but some don't shows signs while others do.depression and other disorders are sometimes very obvious while some are not.
so i got some help from some sites i would like to share with you-the following is from:
http://my.clevelandclinic.org/disorders/suicide/hic_recognizing_suicidal_behavior.aspx
Suicide is not a mental illness in itself, but a serious potential consequence of many mental disorders, particularly major depression.
Who is most likely to commit suicide?
Suicide rates are highest in teens, young adults, and the elderly. People over the age of 65 have the highest rate of suicide. Although women are more likely to attempt suicide, men are more likely to be successful. Suicide risk also is higher in the following groups:
•Older people who have lost a spouse through death or divorce
•People who have attempted suicide in the past
•People with a family history of suicide
•People with a friend or co-worker who committed suicide
•People with a history of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse
•People who are unmarried, unskilled, or unemployed
•People with long-term pain, or a disabling or terminal illness
•People who are prone to violent or impulsive behavior
•People who have recently been released from a psychiatric hospitalization (This often is a very frightening period of transition.)
•People in certain professions, such as police officers and health care providers who work with terminally ill patients
•People with substance abuse problems
What are the warning signs for suicide?
Following are some of the possible warning signs that a person may be at risk for suicide:
•Excessive sadness or moodiness — Long-lasting sadness and mood swings can be symptoms of depression, a major risk factor for suicide.
•Sudden calmness — Suddenly becoming calm after a period of depression or moodiness can be a sign that the person has made a decision to end his or her life.
•Withdrawal — Choosing to be alone and avoiding friends or social activities also are possible symptoms of depression. This includes the loss of interest or pleasure in activities the person previously enjoyed.
•Changes in personality and/or appearance — A person who is considering suicide might exhibit a change in attitude or behavior, such as speaking or moving with unusual speed or slowness. In addition, the person might suddenly become less concerned about his or her personal appearance.
•Dangerous or self-harmful behavior — Potentially dangerous behavior, such as reckless driving, engaging in unsafe sex, and increased use of drugs and/or alcohol might indicate that the person no longer values his or her life.
•Recent trauma or life crisis — A major life crises might trigger a suicide attempt. Crises include the death of a loved one or pet, divorce or break-up of a relationship, diagnosis of a major illness, loss of a job, or serious financial problems.
•Making preparations — Often, a person considering suicide will begin to put his or her personal business in order. This might include visiting friends and family members, giving away personal possessions, making a will, and cleaning up his or her room or home. Some people will write a note before committing suicide.
•Threatening suicide — Not everyone who is considering suicide will say so, and not everyone who threatens suicide will follow through with it. However, every threat of suicide should be taken seriously.
Can suicide be prevented?
In many cases, suicide can be prevented. Research suggests that the best way to prevent suicide is to know the risk factors, be alert to the signs of depression and other mental disorders, recognize the warning signs for suicide, and intervene before the person can complete the process of self-destruction.
People who receive support from caring friends and family, and who have access to mental health services are less likely to act on their suicidal impulses than are those who are isolated from sources of care and support. If someone you know is exhibiting warning signs for suicide, don’t be afraid to ask if he or she is depressed or thinking about suicide. In some cases, the person just needs to know that someone cares and is looking for the chance to talk about his or her feelings. You can then encourage the person to seek professional help.
What should I do if someone I know is talking about committing suicide?
If someone you know is threatening suicide, take the threat seriously.
•Do not leave the person alone. If possible, ask for help from friends or other family members.
•Ask the person to give you any weapons he or she might have. Take away sharp objects or anything else that the person could use to hurt himself or herself.
•Try to keep the person as calm as possible.
•Call 911 or take the person to an emergency room.
© Copyright 1995-2009 The Cleveland Clinic Foundation. All rights reserved
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objects including forks,medication,alcohol,recreational drugs or over the counter drugs,take away their car keys,rope,shoe string,anything with a electric cord attached to it,bed sheet which can be a substitute for a rope,anything in the house that can used as a weapon.I have known someone dropping a plugged in electrical instrument in to the bath they was taken and dropped it in with them.I have seen someone hang them self with a sheet from a bed.we won't get into everything i have tried.besides overdose of pills-i have taken a truck i was driving and going as fast as i could toward a tree(i did not see the dead tree that was laying on the ground and covered with grass that i hit instead and it changed my direction into a a bunch of dead shrubs)so not everything works out as plan.
now my mission is to prevent others from going through what i have gone through in my life.I am trying to let people there are other options,i know when you are deep in thoughts of suicide its not easy to bring yourself out it-by this time your mind has been made up.
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from one more sight i have found to help as well--
http://www.solveyourproblem.com/mental-illness/suicidal-behavior-signs.shtml
Top 10 Warning Signs of Suicidal Behavior
Suicide is one of the problems that are occurring in the world today. When one decides to commit suicide, they have decided that it is better to take their own life instead of to continue living. Before someone gets to this extent, you can look for warning signs of suicidal behavior. Here are ten classic warning signs to look for if you think that someone is going to commit suicide. If you see any of these signs, it is important to also talk to the person and find the right help before they carry through with killing themselves.
1. Depression. Before someone decides to commit suicide, they will usually be feeling several different emotions. These will include things like sadness, hopelessness, and anxiety. Depression will most often include a loss of interest in life and the things that are happening around someone. Major depression, when caught on time, can be treated through medication and therapy.
2. Talking about dying. Often times, those who are considering suicide will be thinking about different ways which they can kill themselves. They will move into telling one different ways in which they can die. They may also be thinking of ways in which someone else killed themselves.
3. Sleep patterns. Those who are depressed and considering suicide may change their sleeping habits. This can range from them sleeping too much to not sleeping at all and being restless all of the time. Often times, one will move from a regular schedule to being hyperactive. They then may move into periods of sleeping for long periods of time.
4. Concentration. A loss in concentration at work or in school as well as in extra-curricular activities may also occur. If you notice that someone is not putting as much effort into different areas of life as usual, then it can be a sign that they are depressed.
5. Eating habits. Many times, those who are considering suicide will have a loss in appetite. If you aren’t monitoring this part, be aware of sudden weight loss that may occur. At the same time, there may be some who will overeat as a result.
6. Low self-esteem. This is one of the major factors that play a part in one wanting to commit suicide. This will include feeling worthless and guilty. Hatred may also be a part of this, as they will seem to not like anyone.
7. Lack of goals. Those who are complicating suicide will have a disinterest in the idea of the future and different goals that they want to reach. They will also seem to not care about the present actions that are happening around them in relation to the future.
8. Making arrangements. This may include several different things. Arranging for someone to take care of their animals or things is one sign of someone thinking about committing suicide. They may also begin giving away the things that seem to be important to them. Several will make out wills as well in order to make sure that things are taken care of after they are gone.
9. Loss of control. This may include harming others, as well as harm towards them. This loss of control may also include outbursts of anger or sadness that happen without warning.
10. History. It is also important to look at the events that are surrounding one’s life in relation to them wanting to commit suicide. This may include the loss of someone who they loved. It may also include a lost job, relationship, money, friends or religion. These losses and agitations are one thing to look for in relation to suicide. If they willingly stop attending things as well, it may be a sign that they are losing their interest in life.
By looking for the signs, you can help someone to not commit suicide. As soon as you think they have suicidal tendencies, it is important to find them help. By doing this, you will be giving them a chance to find their goals again and begin moving forward. The most common way to recognize suicidal tendencies is through a change in mood, such as depressive qualities. However, there are also several other signs that one is suicidal. If you recognize any of these, it is best to approach someone about what they are thinking and try to redirect them towards a better life.
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and also remember some people don't show signs whatsoever-they don't want to attention drawn to them so that way nobody will try to stop them.
also if someone that lives alone you will never know cause there is no one who can see the symptoms to help them.
http://www3.acep.org/patients.aspx?id=36758
http://www.conqueranxietyanddepression.com/Depression/Suicidal_Behavior.html
http://www.befrienders.org/support/index.asp?PageURL=warningSigns.php
http://www.medicinenet.com/suicide/article.htm
I hope the sites above help you and what i have posted and cut and paste from various
site and their website address.
there are several signs but some don't shows signs while others do.depression and other disorders are sometimes very obvious while some are not.
so i got some help from some sites i would like to share with you-the following is from:
http://my.clevelandclinic.org/disorders/suicide/hic_recognizing_suicidal_behavior.aspx
Suicide is not a mental illness in itself, but a serious potential consequence of many mental disorders, particularly major depression.
Who is most likely to commit suicide?
Suicide rates are highest in teens, young adults, and the elderly. People over the age of 65 have the highest rate of suicide. Although women are more likely to attempt suicide, men are more likely to be successful. Suicide risk also is higher in the following groups:
•Older people who have lost a spouse through death or divorce
•People who have attempted suicide in the past
•People with a family history of suicide
•People with a friend or co-worker who committed suicide
•People with a history of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse
•People who are unmarried, unskilled, or unemployed
•People with long-term pain, or a disabling or terminal illness
•People who are prone to violent or impulsive behavior
•People who have recently been released from a psychiatric hospitalization (This often is a very frightening period of transition.)
•People in certain professions, such as police officers and health care providers who work with terminally ill patients
•People with substance abuse problems
What are the warning signs for suicide?
Following are some of the possible warning signs that a person may be at risk for suicide:
•Excessive sadness or moodiness — Long-lasting sadness and mood swings can be symptoms of depression, a major risk factor for suicide.
•Sudden calmness — Suddenly becoming calm after a period of depression or moodiness can be a sign that the person has made a decision to end his or her life.
•Withdrawal — Choosing to be alone and avoiding friends or social activities also are possible symptoms of depression. This includes the loss of interest or pleasure in activities the person previously enjoyed.
•Changes in personality and/or appearance — A person who is considering suicide might exhibit a change in attitude or behavior, such as speaking or moving with unusual speed or slowness. In addition, the person might suddenly become less concerned about his or her personal appearance.
•Dangerous or self-harmful behavior — Potentially dangerous behavior, such as reckless driving, engaging in unsafe sex, and increased use of drugs and/or alcohol might indicate that the person no longer values his or her life.
•Recent trauma or life crisis — A major life crises might trigger a suicide attempt. Crises include the death of a loved one or pet, divorce or break-up of a relationship, diagnosis of a major illness, loss of a job, or serious financial problems.
•Making preparations — Often, a person considering suicide will begin to put his or her personal business in order. This might include visiting friends and family members, giving away personal possessions, making a will, and cleaning up his or her room or home. Some people will write a note before committing suicide.
•Threatening suicide — Not everyone who is considering suicide will say so, and not everyone who threatens suicide will follow through with it. However, every threat of suicide should be taken seriously.
Can suicide be prevented?
In many cases, suicide can be prevented. Research suggests that the best way to prevent suicide is to know the risk factors, be alert to the signs of depression and other mental disorders, recognize the warning signs for suicide, and intervene before the person can complete the process of self-destruction.
People who receive support from caring friends and family, and who have access to mental health services are less likely to act on their suicidal impulses than are those who are isolated from sources of care and support. If someone you know is exhibiting warning signs for suicide, don’t be afraid to ask if he or she is depressed or thinking about suicide. In some cases, the person just needs to know that someone cares and is looking for the chance to talk about his or her feelings. You can then encourage the person to seek professional help.
What should I do if someone I know is talking about committing suicide?
If someone you know is threatening suicide, take the threat seriously.
•Do not leave the person alone. If possible, ask for help from friends or other family members.
•Ask the person to give you any weapons he or she might have. Take away sharp objects or anything else that the person could use to hurt himself or herself.
•Try to keep the person as calm as possible.
•Call 911 or take the person to an emergency room.
© Copyright 1995-2009 The Cleveland Clinic Foundation. All rights reserved
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objects including forks,medication,alcohol,recreational drugs or over the counter drugs,take away their car keys,rope,shoe string,anything with a electric cord attached to it,bed sheet which can be a substitute for a rope,anything in the house that can used as a weapon.I have known someone dropping a plugged in electrical instrument in to the bath they was taken and dropped it in with them.I have seen someone hang them self with a sheet from a bed.we won't get into everything i have tried.besides overdose of pills-i have taken a truck i was driving and going as fast as i could toward a tree(i did not see the dead tree that was laying on the ground and covered with grass that i hit instead and it changed my direction into a a bunch of dead shrubs)so not everything works out as plan.
now my mission is to prevent others from going through what i have gone through in my life.I am trying to let people there are other options,i know when you are deep in thoughts of suicide its not easy to bring yourself out it-by this time your mind has been made up.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
from one more sight i have found to help as well--
http://www.solveyourproblem.com/mental-illness/suicidal-behavior-signs.shtml
Top 10 Warning Signs of Suicidal Behavior
Suicide is one of the problems that are occurring in the world today. When one decides to commit suicide, they have decided that it is better to take their own life instead of to continue living. Before someone gets to this extent, you can look for warning signs of suicidal behavior. Here are ten classic warning signs to look for if you think that someone is going to commit suicide. If you see any of these signs, it is important to also talk to the person and find the right help before they carry through with killing themselves.
1. Depression. Before someone decides to commit suicide, they will usually be feeling several different emotions. These will include things like sadness, hopelessness, and anxiety. Depression will most often include a loss of interest in life and the things that are happening around someone. Major depression, when caught on time, can be treated through medication and therapy.
2. Talking about dying. Often times, those who are considering suicide will be thinking about different ways which they can kill themselves. They will move into telling one different ways in which they can die. They may also be thinking of ways in which someone else killed themselves.
3. Sleep patterns. Those who are depressed and considering suicide may change their sleeping habits. This can range from them sleeping too much to not sleeping at all and being restless all of the time. Often times, one will move from a regular schedule to being hyperactive. They then may move into periods of sleeping for long periods of time.
4. Concentration. A loss in concentration at work or in school as well as in extra-curricular activities may also occur. If you notice that someone is not putting as much effort into different areas of life as usual, then it can be a sign that they are depressed.
5. Eating habits. Many times, those who are considering suicide will have a loss in appetite. If you aren’t monitoring this part, be aware of sudden weight loss that may occur. At the same time, there may be some who will overeat as a result.
6. Low self-esteem. This is one of the major factors that play a part in one wanting to commit suicide. This will include feeling worthless and guilty. Hatred may also be a part of this, as they will seem to not like anyone.
7. Lack of goals. Those who are complicating suicide will have a disinterest in the idea of the future and different goals that they want to reach. They will also seem to not care about the present actions that are happening around them in relation to the future.
8. Making arrangements. This may include several different things. Arranging for someone to take care of their animals or things is one sign of someone thinking about committing suicide. They may also begin giving away the things that seem to be important to them. Several will make out wills as well in order to make sure that things are taken care of after they are gone.
9. Loss of control. This may include harming others, as well as harm towards them. This loss of control may also include outbursts of anger or sadness that happen without warning.
10. History. It is also important to look at the events that are surrounding one’s life in relation to them wanting to commit suicide. This may include the loss of someone who they loved. It may also include a lost job, relationship, money, friends or religion. These losses and agitations are one thing to look for in relation to suicide. If they willingly stop attending things as well, it may be a sign that they are losing their interest in life.
By looking for the signs, you can help someone to not commit suicide. As soon as you think they have suicidal tendencies, it is important to find them help. By doing this, you will be giving them a chance to find their goals again and begin moving forward. The most common way to recognize suicidal tendencies is through a change in mood, such as depressive qualities. However, there are also several other signs that one is suicidal. If you recognize any of these, it is best to approach someone about what they are thinking and try to redirect them towards a better life.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
and also remember some people don't show signs whatsoever-they don't want to attention drawn to them so that way nobody will try to stop them.
also if someone that lives alone you will never know cause there is no one who can see the symptoms to help them.
http://www3.acep.org/patients.aspx?id=36758
http://www.conqueranxietyanddepression.com/Depression/Suicidal_Behavior.html
http://www.befrienders.org/support/index.asp?PageURL=warningSigns.php
http://www.medicinenet.com/suicide/article.htm
I hope the sites above help you and what i have posted and cut and paste from various
site and their website address.
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